Checking In
I’m actively seeking pathways to enhanced mindfulness for myself. You might think that “actively” is the only way to seek. You might be right.
Regardless, I articulate the distinction because I feel as though I have passively sought the same by wanting, but not trying, in the past.
Now, I’m wanting and trying; so, “actively” seeking.
I’m doing it because I’d like to engage more fully in each moment, specifically, while I’m experiencing it.
I’ve heard it said that mindfulness isn’t about knowing, but rather about being aware of, and appreciating not knowing.
When I think about being aware, I think about “checking in.”
Below I’ve listed 7 strategies that have worked, and are working for me as I enhance my “checking in” skills, and strengthen my capacity for being present during the mosaic-like moments along my journey.
- Wishing Well (not the type you throw pennies into)
Frustration, jealousy, anger, resentment, and the like, increasingly seem to be nothing more than distractions in my view. When I muster the strength to wish those around me well, no matter the challenges we face, alone and together, I always find myself feeling better about any given situation, and, I find each moment in which I’m doing so to be more positive and productive than it might otherwise be. The acceptance of not always knowing and a reliance on an “abundance paradigm” (Stephen Covey) help me make it happen.
2. A Core Values Focus
When I focus on my core values, especially kindness and collaboration, I tend to be able to get to the well wishing quicker and more effectively. As it turns out, when those around me feel good I tend to feel good too. Subsequently, not knowing seems more OK.
3. A Foundation of the Foundation
Asking myself what I’m getting at in any given moment tends to help. Usually, for me, it’s well-being & achievement. Most of the time I’m driven by seeking well-being & achievement for myself and for those I serve. Specifically, my energy mostly goes to the well-being and achievement of the children I serve, however, in order to get there the well-being and achievement of all involved turns out to be critical.
4. Right-Leaning
Shades of gray are indelibly woven into the fabric of life. That’s said, “right” and “wrong” appear in most situations without having to dig very deep. Trusting in my internal compass and a right-leaning posture, repeatedly prove to be wonderful tools for carving a mindful and true path.
5. Doodle Focusing
There seems to be a fine line between unconscious and conscious thought and action. Scribbling on a piece of paper with no particular aim helps me connect the two with uncanny consistency. I’m not sure why, it just does.
- Walking Outside
If you don’t already, I would suggest you give it a try. While you do, listen carefully with an open heart and an open mind. I find that the sounds of the world around me help to piece together the complex puzzle of my life in ways that nothing else can.
7. Resting
It’s a busy world. Taking the time to restore myself with rest & relaxation always helps me engage more mindfully during the moments when rest and relaxation are not options.
Food for thought. Wishing you well.
Live. Love. Listen. Learn. Lead. Thanks.