How do you feel? How do you think?
How do you want to feel? How do you want to think?
How do you feel you should be thinking? How do you think should be feeling?
How do you feel thinking impacts the feelings you think you’re having? How do you think feeling impacts the thinking you feel you’re doing?
Ok, I am having fun, but I’m also confusing myself…so let’s move on.
For the purpose of this reflective exploration let’s define the possibilities for both “feeling” and “thinking” within two categories each.
For feeling, let’s go with “good” and “bad.”
“Good” could indicate happy, contented, relaxed or any other desirable emotional state of being. It should be one that promotes well-being and productivity; your choice.
For thinking, let’s go with two traditional frameworks: pessimistic-style and optimistic-style.
Let’s further define our two “thinking style” possibilities as follows:
Pessimistic thinkers view “negative” events or challenges as personal, pervasive, and permanent. They think that every obstacle is a targeted attack on them, aimed at the very core of who they are.
Additionally they think that each obstacle exists to knock them over, infect all aspects of their life, and last a really long time (if not indefinitely).
Optimistic thinkers view “negative” events or challenges at opportunities for learning and growth. They think of obstacles as short-term, limited in scope, and manageable. They believe that after grappling with a challenge they emerge stronger and better equipped for the next one.
Now that we’ve framed out the basis, let’s get to the strategy.
Once you’ve decided how you want to feel and how you want to think, you can insert your intentions into the following equation for optimal results:
(Desired State of Heart and Mind + Strength of Character) x (Interactions + Accountability)/(Patience + Forgiveness) = Actual State of Heart and Mind
The bottom line is that states of heart and states of mind are exponential multipliers.
Embedding yourself in “bad” feelings and “pessimistic” thoughts causes waves of “bad” feelings and “pessimistic” thoughts to advance. Monstrous walls of negative energy, coupled with vicious & destructive undertows pound relentlessly upon those trapped in the negative.
Let’s assume, for the sake of the children we serve as parents and educators, that we each have at least the desire for good feelings and optimistic thoughts. Under this exponential multiplier model, it’s achievable. Give it a try.
Surround yourself mostly with others seeking, and actively working toward the same, act with optimism as a foundation, smile and speak in positive tones, check yourself regularly to ensure a consistent effort, forgive yourself for falling of course as needed, and possibly most importantly, forgive those who insert negativism into the spaces you occupy with bad feelings and pessimistic thinking. I would strongly suggest that they are not doing so from a place of malice but rather one of hurt. Bitterness sinks while compassion floats.
Even more simply, to let the positive multiply within and around you, avoid engaging in the negative. Use your positive energy to shatter negative forces. Know that they are short-term, limited in scope, and manageable, and care deeply about the well-being of others, as it arguably has a profound impact on you and the world at large.
If nothing else, I would confidently suggest that taking this aggressively positive tact can’t hurt.
Live. Love. Listen. Learn. Lead. Thanks.