Frustration can be depleting. It can be distracting. It can catalyze an energy shift from joyful to uneasy in the blink of an eye.
Running into frustration can zap you. It can take you off guard and it can inundate potentially peaceful moments of your one, relatively short life with tension. It can take you by surprise and spin you around.
Also, frustration can be extremely easy to come by in the busy, fast-paced world in which we live.
I understand that we are each unique. However, I would venture a guess that everyone experiences some frustration in one form or another.
I would further speculate that most of us experience at least a bit of that frustration over situations that, if scrutinized for balanced responses and significance, wouldn’t actually call for it (the frustration, that is).
Finally, while I suppose there is an argument to be made for frustration as a motivator, I would suggest that any number of alternate, upbeat, and progressive routes might be increasingly positive & holistically more productive than the frustrated one.
In that I don’t prefer the troublesome nature of frustration to joyful calm I’ve focused some relatively significant reflective energy on seeking one of those alternate routes for moments where frustration presents as a viable mindset.
After only forty-two short years of soul searching I think I may have found a decent strategy for energy shifting, reframing, and regulation toward the calm focus of which I speak when those moments arise.
I’m calling it, “Frustrated Tomorrow.”
Turns out, it’s not new and it’s not rocket science. Not nearly.
It’s simply about having and exercising the desire, the will, and the connected commitment to joyful, present, and thoughtful living to counter-infect your mind with contented serenity as an antidote to any frustration that would seek to strip from you the same.
It seems to work too. At least for me. And at least so far.
I’ve only been doing it for a couple of weeks and the impact is already visible.
For example, I realized not too long ago that I had recently lost the will to engaged in car karaoke. A practice I’ve been enjoying for decades.
After enlisting the support of “Frustrated Tomorrow” I’ve found myself once again singing along with my favorite eighties superstars at the top of my lungs; Journey, Aerosmith, and even Bette Midler in a moment of pure abandonment (“The Rose” – I couldn’t help it).
Freed from the minutia of unfettered frustration by way of “Frustrated Tomorrow” I’m finding myself more frequently accessing the reflective, creative, and jubilant parts of what makes life fun for me.
I’m more available to my family. Ironically, one of the frustrations that at times has kept me drained and somewhat distant, even when I was physically present, was the fact that I don’t have nearly as much physically present time as I’d like. Aside from thick with irony, that’s just goofy.
“Frustrated Tomorrow” helped me walk that back and remember what a blessing each moment truly is.
Under the “Frustrated Tomorrow” paradigm I’m more fun, I’m more thoughtful, I’m more introspective, and I’m simply more me.
If you ever feel frustration and question it as potentially unnecessary, and if you’re interested in exploring another pathway to peacefulness, you might consider the procedure below in exploring that “Frustrated Tomorrow” could work for you.
Step 1: When you feel frustration knocking decide to reserve it for tomorrow by saying, “I’ll be frustrated about that tomorrow.” Out loud is good. In your mind will do.
Step 2: Actually, there is no “Step 2.” Step 1 should do the trick if you trust yourself, and if you’re able to take your own advise. If it doesn’t work, you’ll simply get and possibly remain frustrated. No harm, no foul.
Good news though, you can keep trying as often as you’d like, even and especially if you fail at first. After all, failure is a magnificent pathway to learning and growth. The most magnificent some might say.
In fact, “Frustrated Tomorrow” might not work for you until you work on it.
It’s possible that you might have to see the benefits before it sinks in.
It’s possible that you might have to be cool with delaying the gratification of frustration before your able to give it up (if indeed frustration itself turns out to be your desired end game).
If you enlist the courage to continue through failure you might find that in some, if not most cases, you’ll end up not needing frustration once tomorrow comes.
If you dig in even when facing seemingly imminent defeat, you might experience that in some, if not most cases you’ll forget why you were considering frustration in the first place.
Who knows? Not me. Just a thought.
If you need it, and you want it, and you try it, and it works…well done (and happy joyful calm).
Live. Love. Listen. Learn. Laugh. Lead.